Saturday, August 22, 2020
Family and spirituality

Letter to a failing heroin addict

Dear Friend,

You don’t need to hurt like this anymore.

The most successful and widely used methods for dealing with your addiction are Alcoholics Anonymous (founded in 1935) and Narcotics Anonymous (founded in 1953). Statistics from The Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore show that those with eight years sober remain abuse-free at the level of 90%. However, in the first year of recovery success is only 50%.  Obviously, perseverance is key. Those with years of sobriety often reclaim their lost destiny.

Then there are tales of those with multiple rehabs and continued failure. If that describes you, the question is ‘Why?’

The answer lies in the founding of the program. Bill Wilson, a chronic alcoholic, staggered from his New York home in 1935 in drunken blindness shouting, “I am not crazy. I am not crazy.” Knocking down shoppers, racing into moving traffic, he slams into a large tree to fall physically (and symbolically) into the gutter.

In Bill’s hospital room an event known as “The White Light Experience” was unfolding. Without electrical assistance, his room was slowly engulfed in a brilliant white light. Anxieties vanished. As Wilson explained, “I was at peace, the kind of comfort I have never known before.” At the same time, he had an intuition that the answer for him was to reach out to help other alcoholics. For the following six months, Bowery drunks found rescue in Bill’s home. No apparent lasting help for the drunks, but as for Bill Wilson, he would never drink alcohol again. His curse became  blessing as the international movement, Alcoholics Anonymous,was born. For a powerful dramatization of this watch the Emmy award-winning Hollywood film MY NAME IS BILL W  (1989) starring James Woods and James Garner.

Wilson openly attested to his own past follies and claimed no special right to what seems only comparable to an unmerited gift from God. Theologians call such an event “grace,” a commonly used term in the fellowship today. It need not be based in religion. Spirituality is a broader concept than traditional religion.

But grace can be blocked. In its absence, recovery disintegrates and relapse follows.

Constantly failing addicts never connect the dots. In the fellowship this condition is known as a “dry drunk.” Blocking God’s spiritual power are negative spiritual attitudes. These are primarily:

  • Unforgiveness which includes resentments and desires for revenge. Although unforgiveness has major emotional consequences it starts in the intellect. That means forgiveness can be learned. Forgiving may help the unjust aggressor, but it always helps the one who forgives.
  • Dishonesty. This is specifically addressed in three of the twelve steps.
  • Selfishness Selfishness is overcome by seeking a sincere desire to help others who suffer. At the same time in helping others you protect yourself.
  • Sexual promiscuity. This can be addiction to pornography or engaging in casual sex with no sense of a lasting covenant. “Rehab romance” takes your focus off recovery and sets you up for trouble if he or she wants out.  Perhaps this  is a risk you are willing to take. But should you be willing to expose the other party to that same risk? Does that really qualify as love?

In 40 years of working with the addicted, I have learned that these negative  behaviors block the positive power of grace. Just as positive blocks negative, so vehicles of vice can erase vehicles of virtue. Then, despite a commitment to the steps, addiction resumes.

So, if addiction returns (despite your best efforts), consider examining these areas. Might one of these be damaging your health, your relationships, your dreams? If you rid yourself of these negative behaviors, you’re on your way to reclaiming your lost destiny.









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